What Do You Look For In A Dom?

Super Common Question.
Like, one of the most frequently asked questions that I see from newbies.
And I understand why.

When you're new to the Kinkyverse, when everything that happens here seems so alien and strange, it stands to reason that something you've been doing your entire adult life might not be the same here as it is in Vanilla Land. Maybe the things a submissive would look for in a partner are different than what a Vanilla lady would look for in her partner... So the question gets asked.
Often.

So what do submissive women look for in their dominant partner?
(Answers will not work for everybody, don't have to work for everybody, and you get to decide what's important for you to look for. These are just very common examples)

Honesty.
Trustworthiness.
Intelligence.
Humor.
Loyalty.
Reliability.
Kindness.
Affection.
Compatibility (religion, politics, general life goals).
Communication.

That all seems pretty Vanilla, doesn't it? Like somehow dominants are just like vanilla guys you might think about dating, or marrying, or even just being friends with (or maybe friends with benefits). Like somehow, despite the fact that this sort of relationship might have a fancy title, or the people in it might have not-so-normal titles, that it's still just a relationship.

Because it is.

If you liked dating vanilla guys who had certain character traits, odds are good you're going to like dominant guys who have those traits as well. If you like having a sarcastic, witty, brilliant boyfriend, you're probably going to want to look for a sarcastic, witty, brilliant dominant. The traits you want in a partner don't suddenly have to change because you've decided to identify as an s-type instead of a vanilla girlfriend.

And you certainly don't have to settle for a dominant who doesn't possess the character traits that you think are important in a partner.

The only things that changed for me, when I was looking, was that I had to add two more things to my list-

Dominant
Kink compatible (liking the same kinky play and relationship parameters).

That's it. I only had to add two things to my "What I look for in a boyfriend" list change it into "What I look for in a dominant" list.

It's probably all you need to do as well to answer this question for yourself.